Deceased Kids Travel “On Vacation” -Remembering Our Loved Ones

My first ever night at a The Compassionate Friends National Conference 4 years ago in Arlington, Virginia, I met a man who impacted me more than he could possibly know.  It was at a Facebook Meet and Greet.  He said that he, his wife and surviving child attend the conferences every year because this is the only trip that all of them could continue to travel as a FAMILY; that this was THE PLACE that they could bring their deceased child on vacation with them.  I remember turning to my husband, tears pooling in my eyes, with a bittersweet smile and urgent promise of “We are coming back next year.”  And we have.  Robyn traveled with us to Minnesota the following year, then Costa Mesa in 2012 and this year, over the July 4th holiday weekend, to Boston.    Compassionate Friends is where we can wear our Robyn photo T Shirts, our Robbie photo buttons, where we can freely and happily share stories of Rob’s life and death.  We travel with our deceased child for a week in a place where everyone understands.

Most of us who go to The National Conference think of the workshops as icing on the cake, but ask any of us why we return and the Number One Reason is THE CONNECTION made with Other Bereaved Parents (siblings and Grandparents).  It is the special conversations held between the workshops, relished during breakfasts, lunches and dinners; the connections during Sharing Sessions.

We keep going back because of BEING WITH OTHERS WHO GET IT, whose stories not only make us feel so less alone, but touch our hearts, inspire us, and fill us with possibility.  We go because we find that we touch other lives.  We wrap our arms around those with the Butterfly Stickers, signifying that it is their first conference experience, and we remember with a flood of emotions how it was our first time; walking into a TCF meeting, attending a Conference; how it was that first moment we heard the words that forever changed our lives.  The keynote addresses, the presenters, the workshops are amazing parts of The TCF Conference Experience.  But it is Standing Alongside of 1,500 others during the Walk To Remember; it is more than 1,000 lit candles for our KIDS, it is NOT BEING ALONE, that becomes The Magic Of a TCF National Conference.

Whether you attended The Conference or not, you have a chance to capture a part of that magic during our

Sunday, July 21

Whether you chose to walk two steps, the entire mile and a half or just sit and speak with others who “Get It”, it is a Day of Traveling with your Deceased Loved One…It is a Day of Remembering…Of Sharing their Life Story …Of being able to release a butterfly in their honor… Of sharing their image on The Memory Boards (if you wish), of saying their name out loud in a place where others WANT TO HEAR.  It is truly a Day of Community and Caring, where our deceased loved ones bring us together and hold us in their hearts, as we hold them.


Allow Yourself A Summer Day Of Traveling With Your Deceased Child.

Encourage Your Family And Friends To Share The Day With You;

To Help You To Celebrate And To Remember

The Life That May No Longer Be Present In Body

But Will Always Be Present In Your Heart

Your Life, Your Dreams, Your Memory.

 Chapters are welcomed to bring Chapter Banners

Posters, Signs, Memory Board Postings, Stories, Poems are embraced.

 We are the Only State Hosing an Annual STATEWIDE WALK TO REMEMBER.  BE PART OF IT. 

Information about

♥   Free Registration
♥   What to Bring
♥   What to Wear
♥  The Park, The Picnic, The People
♥   “Reserving” Photo T-Shirts
♥   “Reserving” Butterflies for The Release

Please forward the information to your Chapter Members, even if you can’t make it yourself.
We are hoping to have 100% of Connecticut’s Chapters represented at

Let us show the rest of the Nation that Connecticut Thrives on Hope, Caring and Community

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